How to Become a Better Man That Everyone Can Look Up to

By John Cruz

Who doesn’t want to become a better man?

I know, the cocky, I’m too good for you kind of man.

The kind of man that knows everything and won’t give anyone else the time or day to say what they want.

If you are that guy, today is the day you change.

Today is the day you think about someone else other than yourself.

And today is the day you learn how to be a better man.

It can be as easy as you make it, or it can be something that never happens.

It’s up to you, but I’m sure you can use a change or two.

How to Become a Better Man


Becoming a better man starts with you.

You need to know and understand what needs to be changed and want to make a change in your life.

If not, you’ll never become the better man you know you can be.

So how do you become a better man?

Here is a simple guide on how to accomplish this feat and become a man everyone wants to be around.

1. Do a Self Evaluation

Looking in the mirror is the first step to becoming a better man.

Look at who you really are and how you act.

If you don’t know or think that something is wrong with you or that you can improve on, you need to look around you.

Look at how others respond to you.

Do they often shy away from you?

Do they actually enjoy your company?

Does everyone get quiet when you enter a room?

Sometimes you may think that everyone adores the person you are, but, in reality, they aren’t a bit amused by the things you do and say.

Take a step back and really think about who you are and how others view you.

Not to say that what others think of you matters, but it does when you’re trying to become a better man.

2. Listen More, Talk Less

Although you should listen more and talk less, it’s not something we do naturally.

It’s not easy for men, and it’s not easy for anyone.

However, it is critical if you want to learn how to be a better man.

To accomplish this requires a whole lot of listening.

Listen to the person you are talking to and think of how you can respond to what they are saying rather than having your brilliant speech ready to be recited.

3. Avoid Using I and Me

We live in a self-centered world, and almost all focus is on yourself.

I’m not a fan of the whole “do you” – focus on yourself world we live in, but it’s what’s preached and what we have to deal with.

When you enter your next conversation with anyone, try to listen to what they say and what you are saying.

Focus especially on your words, and see if you’re constantly using “I” and “me” in your sentences.

We might have a problem.

As much as we all want to show others what we have accomplished and what we like to do and eat, it’s not always what you should focus on.

Try to find interest in others, as this goes hand in hand with my next point.

4. Think of Someone Else

Thinking of someone else is not something you already know.

It’s something you need to “think” about.

Don’t force it either, as you are not a child.

Genuinely help others around you.

See what they need.

See if they could use a hand with something.

There doesn’t always have to be a reward for your good deeds, so help others even if no one sees you.

Don’t be like everyone and their mothers who have to post a clip of them giving money to the homeless.

It’s ugly, no one is genuinely pleased with your gesture, and no one needs to see it.

5. Control Yourself

“Don’t get mad.”

Don’t be scared.”

Telling someone to do something like that almost makes things worse.

It’s like telling a baby not to cry.

We are only human, and we don’t notice many things as we are too distracted by the crazy things our brain is telling us.

Now, when it comes to you, you need to control the things you can.

One is your anger and other emotional things you do.

You might want to chill if you are quick to be upset over something someone else says.

You might want to calm down if you get overly excited about nothing.

Think of how you act when someone says something, and try to show that you are in control of yourself, rather than like a child that oohs and ahhs over everything.

Remember, you are a man.

Not a woman.

6. Work Harder

Some of you might already be the hardest worker in the room, but there’s always room for improvement.

If you are great at doing the yard, remember that there’s always some part of your life that needs work.

No pun intended.

Maybe your mate doesn’t get the love and affection she needs because you’re too busy with work.

Maybe your kids are left on their devices waiting for you to scold them and not give them attention.

Wake up and think about how much time you spend doing different things.

How about working on being a better mate and father?

That’s a great thing to do and is one of the best ways for you to become a better man.

7. Get Physical

Trust me.

Not everyone is like Arnold Hartzenager, and our life doesn’t revolve around the gym and lifting weights.

We all know what happens when you get addicted to weight-lifting, which can be harmful.

However, you must find the fine line between exercise and overdoing it.

Then again, let’s speak for the average man that probably doesn’t do any physical activity.

Get up, get out, and break a sweat.

I don’t care if it’s throwing a football or shooting a basketball for a few minutes.

You need to do something.

To become a better man, you need to get the blood flowing.

Don’t do that, and not only will you be a mediocre man, but you will also develop some health issues.

8. Don’t Focus on Everything Physical

Most men have nothing going for them besides what you see.

They think they can get through life by criticizing others who don’t meet “their standards.”

They try to talk about the imperfections of the other male in the room rather than trying to be the better man.

“You’re not cute enough.”

“You’re too short.”

“You’re too weak.”

Sound familiar?

These are the types of things the insecure male says.

They feel “manly” because they physically outshine the competition.

They feel they are superior and that they can get any girl they want, when although true sounding, it is not.

Yes, they will get the cute, superficial girl that probably isn’t smart enough, but the wise and intelligent gem will not give you the time of day.

I know you think you’re the hot shot, but think about your life, or you will not become a better man.

9. Eat Better

Right after some nice exercise, you want to look at your diet.

You know what you’re eating, and you know what’s good for you.

You don’t need to go on a strict diet, and you don’t have to stop eating everything.

Focus on adding less salt and sugar, and remember that you don’t always have to eat everything before you just because you can.

Start slow, and you will see results.

Try to do too much, and you’ll probably quit.

Add more fruit and vegetables to your diet and drink lots of water.

I know you don’t want to pee all day, but water is a must to get your diet back on track.

10. Practice Better Hygiene

Hygiene is a must.

I don’t care if you’re a woman, an infant, or a bag of muscles you are.

You should strive to be a clean guy and not want to smell like a bag of trash.

Being clean is a must, regardless of what you think.

If you think smoking is so cool, imagine what others are thinking when you return from your break.

I’m sure no one thinks to themself how amazing you smell after you come back from your smoke break.

11. Use Your Time Wisely

We all have the same amount of time.

We just all use it differently.

Some of us work more than we play, while others would rather sit on a toilet all day watching reels on IG.

Whatever the case, there’s always a way to use your time wisely.

Look at your schedule, see what consumes most of your time, and make adjustments where necessary.

Again, the people in your house can use some of that time, so don’t be afraid to take a day off to take your family to the pool.

12. Break Bad Habits

Sometimes we need to be told, even as an adult.

“You have a boogie hanging out of your nose”


“You need a Tic Tac”.

The same thing goes for some of the habits we have as men.

I mentioned smoking earlier as it’s something we pick up without thinking, and it’s one of those bad habits that you should kick to the curb.

Nothing good comes from smoking, but a lot of good can be done if you quit.

Other bad habits include gambling, vaping, and being a jerk.

Make these changes, and I promise you will become a better man.

Conclusion – Be a Better Man

Being a better man can happen as fast as you want.

Sometimes it can take time, and that’s okay.

If you’re willing to put in the work and effort, I’m sure you will see results.

Most often, it won’t happen overnight, but with patience and determination, I’m sure you will be the better man everyone can love.

Until next time, keep improving, spend time with your family, and don’t forget to be thankful for what you have.

Thanks for reading!

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